I'm a lot better now. If things aren't meant to be, then they're not meant to be. She's a great person and I wish her the best. I understand why she wants to move and I hope she finds everything she's looking for and more in New York.
Oddly, this reminds me of a situation of when Diego and I were in Canoa, Ecuador. As we strolled through the narrow dirt streets, Diego would constantly recognize people and say, "I know that guy, he owes me $20". ($20 over in Canoa has the same buying power as $100 here in the States)
After this happened a few times, I was finally perplexed enough to ask, "Why would you keep lending people money?"
He replied, "I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. If people tell me they need a $20 loan for an emergency, I trust them. Some people pay me back and some don't. If I don't see them again, I'll be glad I only lost $20" It was a quick way of figuring out who was worth his time.
I think this concept of taking a positive perspective on a negative situation applies to relationships as well. When I left my job at the homeless agency, my plan was to travel for a year around South America. When I met her, my plans changed. I hoped there was something and was willing to take a chance. That was my priority.
Now she has the chance to stay or give the long distance relationship a shot. Neither seems a priority for her. I don't want to be in a relationship where someone's my priority and I'm only their convenience.
It sucks that this situation came up, but there is some good that came out of it. It's better to figure out that you're not looking for the same things in a relationship after only a few months instead of later.
Booo ... that sucks William :(
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